Smita Diwan
Bygone are the days when men approached women and fled for a happy beginning with marriage. Since dark ages dating norms are undergoing transformation with rise of digital age. Dating in 21st century have got most of the women confused “whether to take a step or wait?”
Ladies taking the first step to approach is highly appreciated as bold, self-confident and smart personality. But there are also some men who take advantage of womens situations to exploit the dames. Thus, to avoid such broken hearts, exploitation there it is important to maintain some ground rules.
Rule 1: Do not take the first step
Never be the first one to approach a guy. Let the man take the step to invite for a date if the guy is really into you, will do. This step doesn’t bend the 21st century strong women but it is a smart play to give the bat to him while you bowl him over!
Rule 2: Never text or attend calls immediately
As girls take time to look their best on the date, similarly take time to reply to his text or answer his call. Let men sweat a little, or else they start taking us for granted. Also, the bonus in following the rule is that you keep your personality strong so he learns to respect you. A tip to remember, after repeated 3-4 times of this action, give yourself a chance to open a little, give a short call.
Rule 3: Remain mysterious
Do not talk much. Rather give a chance to him to do the talking and taking initiatives in this new relation. On the first date don’t serve yourself on the platter or share your feelings, future plans, likes and dislikes to him. Give a chance to the relation to open up by knowing each other subtly.
Rule 4: Keep it short and simple
The KISS philosophy works best in beginning of a relation. Talk less, text short messages, email short and do not Facebook immediately. Give space to the fungus of love to grow naturally and not by depending on the technology of phone, sms, FB, etc.
Rule 5: On Date Night
Remain calm, composed, and happy and focus on yourself more than him. Make your individuality present in a strong and elegant manner so he knows that he doesn’t hold your gills. Most importantly, you set your lines here. Do not jump at once when he calls for the next date or do as he directs would be best of the relation.
