Vigya Atri
Moving in with a good friend can be the most exciting thing ever! You look forward to days of laughter and endless nights of madness! But there is an unfortunate flip side too – living together can create rifts and problems and that in turn, can sour the friendship. So before you move in together, here are a few things you should probably think about.
The Things You DON’T Like
We’re not exactly starting with the most pleasant point, but it’s certainly one of the most essential ones. Take a moment to think about all the things you dislike about your friend , anything and everything. The reason why you need to sit down and really put down the points is because there might be certain points that you don’t like about him/her but they don’t really make a difference when you aren’t living together. For example: If you’re a neat freak and your best friend is messy, living apart, it may not be such a big deal, but living together, it has the potential to drive you both nuts and have constant fights.
Think About Friends Circle
If you both have the same friends circle, you’re probably going to be seeing each other a LOT and that is something you need to consider before taking the big step. I
The Fights And The Make Ups
Can you solve both of your fights like adults or do you two start screaming at one another only to take some time out from one another? If it is the latter, then you may want to think what you’ll do in case you two have fights because you both will literally have nowhere else to go. Will being in each other’s spaces make it better, or worse? Start thinking.
Daily Routines and Habits
You might think you know your best friend really well because you guys hang out all the time, but before you really move in – you need to understand that there is a big difference between hanging out together and actually living together. Things that may not be a big annoyance may suddenly become a big problem. Example: If your friend is a smoker, and you, a non smoker, a cigarette or two over lunch may not really bother you. But think, will it bother you if you or not if two are in the same house?
Or things that didn’t seem to matter, suddenly do. Example: You love coming home late at night, and your friend may know it, but it’s going to be a problem if your friend is a light sleeper and easily wakes up with the slightest of disturbance.
In short, you may know each other’s habits and routines well, but don’t forget to re-think how compatible are they.
