Dealing with an abuser could be a nightmare for both men and women. From leaving salt-tongued remarks to brutal assaults, the abuser can leave a scar so deep in us. Abuse can occur verbally, mentally, and psychologically.
During this pandemic, many men and women are forced to work from home, thus being in close proximity to their abuser.
How do you safeguard yourself from them? What are the ways you need to use to ensure that you don’t get hurt deeply? Recognizing that you are under abuse itself can prove to be a daunting process.
All these safety tips might come in handy if you find yourself a victim:
- Know what are your abuser’s red flags. Look for clues and signs where your abuser might get upset.
- Look for safe areas in your house. Understand where you can use it as a hideout when your argument might start. Avoid any small spaces with no exits, such as bathrooms or closets. You can also stay in rooms with weapons handy. Leverage a room with a phone or a window.
- Pre-plan and bring up a secret code word. It could be a phrase, word, signal which your friends, children, co-workers or neighbours can know if you are in trouble. It’s when you should inform the police.
- Keep your vehicle fueled up. It should also face the driveway exit by unlocking the driver’s door.
- Hide your spare key elsewhere. Get your hands on clothing, emergency cash along with documents and phone numbers in a safe and secure place.
- Escape safely and quickly. Rehearse the escape plan in advance so that you can be ready to escape. Teach the escape plan to your children as well.
- Memorize all your local emergency contacts. Ping your local shelter, emergency contacts and domestic violence hotline.
- When dealing with your physical and mental health, you should be your priority. You needn’t please your abuser. Take care of all your requirements. Believe in positivity.
- Avoid engagement with your abuser. When your abuser argues, insults or demands anything from you, stop making explanations. Don’t ever apologize. Try to walk away from the scene.
- Build a support network. Even though it can be tough for you to speak about your experiences, you need to talk about them. Move away from the abuser as much as you can.
Take rest and consume healthy meals. All these health care tips will ensure that you are safe from the abuser. Being strong isn’t about giving in to the situation. It is about standing up for yourself. Never feel guilty about what you are experiencing.
This too shall pass!